Nicky's Nuggets to Real Life Stress
By nature, we REACT! If you're a Laid Back type of person then you tend to be less reactive than a person that can be considered of the Anxious type. An Anxious type will be found cursing at a traffic jam, aggravated at the slow shopper pushing the cart, always in a hurry. The laid back person will be a little more go with the flow and find themselves on the receiving end of an anxious type. Neither are bad or good they just are the 2 types of folks that make the world go round.
During stress overload fight, flight or freeze is the natural go-to Stress Response aka Reaction. Most people react to situations, events, etc. Very few people leave time in their day to allow themselves to respond. Responding to something that wasn't part of your plan puts you in the driver seat and allows for solutions to show up. Reactions, on the other hand, can and often do add regret, guilt, disappointment, the need to apologize, or keeps you stressed while replaying the past events over and over.
One of my clients recently came to me hoping to find a solution not to experience a blow-up as she recently had experienced. In a state of panic and fear she was in a total overload of stress and regrettably yelled at her family in a blow-up scenario much to the surprise of her other family members.
Because she constantly seeks personal growth and always wants to do better we uncovered that her stress overload had a lot to do with disappointment to some events that were out of control , and to the undone things in the environment that had just been pushed and often overlooked physically. Here's the thing she made many justifications why it was okay that these things really never got done or completed in her attempts to be understanding of other most of the time, but her subconscious was totally aware of her burying the frustration and disappointment that the environment was a stimulus overload. A long list of just not finished items, as many of us find in our day to day lives, and a busy day with some new, although exciting, still new events that had just occurred.
Simple Solution was A) create a master Stop Putting it Off List then sit with her spouse to begin taking action together, hire the folks that are needed to be hired for specific tasks, and delete items that are really no longer of importance.
The tweaks of knowing that small and somethings are getting done has allowed her to relax and spend more fun times with her family. Relationships often get destroyed or at a minimum set back to a feeling of "stuck" when a reaction happens. Luckily for my client and her family she's got me to help Coach her to a new level in life with less stress as she begins to respond in a manner that leads to productivity and happiness.
If you want to be a part of the tiny percentage of the world who responds instead of reacts then schedule your Complimentary StressLessSecrets Session TODAY. Your Freedoms of Relationship, Time, & Money are waiting for you.