Nicky's Nuggets to Real Life Stress
Have you ever wanted something for so long and you thought that when the thing happened you'd be ecstatic? Right before that thing happened you stayed in faith, were patient, frustrated, felt left out of life, had breakdowns, and then each time the breakdowns showed up you thought you were much closer than ever before? Right before you got to that thing the breakdowns came quicker and quicker and you wandered where was the happy, upbeat, positive person you knew and why did you have another breakdown 2 days later? The win arrives and you feel so like "that's it?" Are you serious? I waited this long for this? Well most people do react to major life events with such fear that the happiness and celebrations cannot even happen.
Here are a couple of examples: I once heard this young adult and an older gentleman talking about the woman's first credit card that she got that day. He had a look of "oh boy" while trying to seem happy for her, and she was so thrilled. I thought to myself, (from my personal experience and a great deal of my clients who seek money freedom), I wonder if she will feel the same when the bill comes in? Will she still feel proud to be considered responsible, trusted, granted when the bills become more than she anticipated? How long will this feeling of excitement and gratitude go on for this company who did express a lot to her and it's now her chance to prove that to them.
Another example is: you save up for your "dream house" which becomes the house that fits in your budget and the bank says you can afford, you get that house and then a sinking feeling hits...what have I done? My mobile home was only $200/month or honey, we could just stay at my parents another few years, or now the fun begins with the remodeling bills and checks to write.
This list could go on and on. It's always the anticipation of the trip, the wedding, the graduation, that causes us the most stress and the most pain at the same time. You might see this happen a lot in lives or days of those who are highly competitive folks. The reply to me when they say I thought I would feel more than this and it's just like "nothing, that's it, I don't mean to seem ungrateful or spoiled, but I just thought it would be more". "Help me get through this so I don't wish it away and then something bad happens".
Well it may appear that they are faking the joy because can you only really celebrate with 30 other teammates jumping up and down, but you get home and all of the hard work now sends you into a grieving process? The truth is that patience tends to exhaust our emotions with having hopes, dreams, fears, frustrations, and lots of other highs and lows from one day to another. Particularly, when you've been waiting for so long for this thing to be resolved. The facts remain that you are never finished and it's never done. Yes, it's awesome to have a vision with an intention of how you want to feel, but do not beat yourself up for not being as happy as you think that you should be. Allow yourself to think "is this it? what else is there to life? , why am I always let down?
You are let down because you believed that thing would make you feel more respected, more trusted, more responsible, more of whatever your deepest desire is. A resolve that results in instant gratification will only fulfill the moment, but appreciating the long journey and being persistent will fulfill your heart.
StressLessSecrets-Pick something small to be considered your win for the day, your win for the project, your win for the case, your win along the journey. The Small & Something way of life will reduce your stress, give you more confidence, and raise your happiness level. With your hand on your heart, repeat....just for this moment I choose to to truly feel so blessed and loved. Happiness lives in my heart, just for today. Isn't it wonderful to have enjoyed the highs and lows of whatever the thing is?
Let me know how you feel when you put the StressLessSecret into practice (just for this moment).
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Thanks for reading, sharing, and as always you can either be too blessed to be stressed or choose to be too stressed to blessed.
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