Motivational Messages that will Shift You From
to Your Very Own Super-Power
to Your Very Own Super-Power
The power of focus only happens when your desire is an obsession. Where does that kind of desire come from? The belief that you are sick and tired of being sick and tired and are ready to have a different outcome in life. Does it mean that it will happen overnight? Absolutely not. Does it mean that all of the other times you were sick and tired, found a resource, had hope, then it was a let down will happen again? Maybe, but does it mean that you should stop and settle for the pain that you've been experiencing? NO
The power of focus that I am talking about comes with persistence and when you are truly, truly ready to see things from a different perspective then you are ready to obsess on that desire. You see desire comes from either so much pain that you do not ever want to go through that again or from it feeling so good that you want to do it again.
My niece used to make us sing "Happy Birthday" twice. We got so used to her proclaiming "do it again" that now that she is older we say "do it again" and sing twice. It felt so good to sing it again because we brought joy to her, to the birthday person, and to ourselves. So that's the power of focus. It changes the course permanently.
Take money for instance. If you went through a period of time where you had no income, no real way to pay your bills, yet you survived, but you aren't where you want to be yet, then you will make different spending choices and re-prioritize. Perhaps the pain of being in that place is not something that you want to repeat again and so you then have obsessive desire to feel more prepared. Another example is that you lost your home in a natural disaster, while insurance shopping you make sure that you are covered to live elsewhere financially. These are the things that cause pain strong enough to reset your desires and priorities.
From all of these financial hardships you then become an expert in credit reporting, money and debt management, cash lifestyle, paying credit cards in full each and every month, etc. Your desire to help others not go through what you went through turns into a profitable passion. These are the types of obsessive desires I am talking about. The type that not only changes you, but others in the world too.
This is exactly what happened to me. I am on a mission to learn everything that I can about living in a prosperity mindset instead of a poverty mindset. The School of Hard Knocks has laid a few lessons on my journey and for that I am eternally grateful and blessed.
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Today, I posted this status after having one of the many all too familiar conversations with someone feeling the money stress and not knowing about a lot of the possible solutions out there.
"Just about everyone has a complicated relationship with money. Studies show that money is the no. 1 reason for divorce in the early years of marriage and a common area of conflict for couples. Even before the recession, 3 out of 4 Americans identified money as the no. 1 source of stress in their lives."
I cannot tell you how many of my clients have money stress as their number 1 source (so they think anyway). Because of my own life journey and extensive education with regards to this topic, I find it easy to teach the practical action for you to take to stressless. I have been blessed with a wealth of experience, resources, and many solutions to problems that many people have no idea even exists. I also, do not want anyone to experience the hard knocks that I learned from these either. That's why I am so passionate about teaching other BossMomas that you don't have to keep borrowing from Peter to pay Paul or have crappy credit.
"Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so". So if there's anything that you should know about me is that I am an eternal optimist which sometimes leads to the belief that I will be able to pay things back when I say I will and then plot twists happen, things fall through or take much longer than I could have ever planned for. My faith is my most powerful weapon that serves good and well bad is also good because I get to learn and be better prepared in the future. If you are feeling bad about old debt, thinking that people think that you don't pay your bills, or some other money challenge, then take a deep breath and know this is just part of your journey, but it is not the end. You will not be eternally labeled as such. God has already paid your debts and now day by day the right action to clearing up the remnants of your old choices will be revealed to take.
There is a solution to your problem.
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I define "Leader" as one who has faced or faces many trials in life and yet gets up with a smile and hope. One who will lift others, encourage others, reassures others, and goes with the flow, will always sit at the front of the class if they know they get distracted easily, and will let the teacher know if they have something on their face so the other kids don't laugh at the teacher, They are a positive thinker, care deeply about others, and care more about the "go" than the "show".
Leaders don't travel to brag about their lavish vacation, but instead use it to create and connect with others that they would have never otherwise met. They learn a different way of life and bring back some of those experiences to not only enhance their lives, but those around them.
Here's the catch about leaders, they are often sorely and sadly misunderstood. They carry the weight of the world and the family on their shoulders and often do not tell a soul about their challenges. Often times the challenges are not even known until the problem and disappointment surfaces, maybe a wee late, but it's not a problem that is ever too big to be solved. Leaders do have down days, days where they just don't think they can keep going and will have a breakdown, but then suddenly they rise up and push faster, harder, stronger. They breakthrough the barrier and overcome their greatest fear day by day. Sometimes the fears cause so much procrastination that they get stuck in a cycle of paying attention to others so that they cannot pay attention to themselves. To Be Continued, but for now do any of these sound like you?
Are you a Leader?
If so, start identifying the ways that you anchor yourself in the morning.
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Have you ever wanted something for so long and you thought that when the thing happened you'd be ecstatic? Right before that thing happened you stayed in faith, were patient, frustrated, felt left out of life, had breakdowns, and then each time the breakdowns showed up you thought you were much closer than ever before? Right before you got to that thing the breakdowns came quicker and quicker and you wandered where was the happy, upbeat, positive person you knew and why did you have another breakdown 2 days later? The win arrives and you feel so like "that's it?" Are you serious? I waited this long for this? Well most people do react to major life events with such fear that the happiness and celebrations cannot even happen.
Here are a couple of examples: I once heard this young adult and an older gentleman talking about the woman's first credit card that she got that day. He had a look of "oh boy" while trying to seem happy for her, and she was so thrilled. I thought to myself, (from my personal experience and a great deal of my clients who seek money freedom), I wonder if she will feel the same when the bill comes in? Will she still feel proud to be considered responsible, trusted, granted when the bills become more than she anticipated? How long will this feeling of excitement and gratitude go on for this company who did express a lot to her and it's now her chance to prove that to them.
Another example is: you save up for your "dream house" which becomes the house that fits in your budget and the bank says you can afford, you get that house and then a sinking feeling hits...what have I done? My mobile home was only $200/month or honey, we could just stay at my parents another few years, or now the fun begins with the remodeling bills and checks to write.
This list could go on and on. It's always the anticipation of the trip, the wedding, the graduation, that causes us the most stress and the most pain at the same time. You might see this happen a lot in lives or days of those who are highly competitive folks. The reply to me when they say I thought I would feel more than this and it's just like "nothing, that's it, I don't mean to seem ungrateful or spoiled, but I just thought it would be more". "Help me get through this so I don't wish it away and then something bad happens".
Well it may appear that they are faking the joy because can you only really celebrate with 30 other teammates jumping up and down, but you get home and all of the hard work now sends you into a grieving process? The truth is that patience tends to exhaust our emotions with having hopes, dreams, fears, frustrations, and lots of other highs and lows from one day to another. Particularly, when you've been waiting for so long for this thing to be resolved. The facts remain that you are never finished and it's never done. Yes, it's awesome to have a vision with an intention of how you want to feel, but do not beat yourself up for not being as happy as you think that you should be. Allow yourself to think "is this it? what else is there to life? , why am I always let down?
You are let down because you believed that thing would make you feel more respected, more trusted, more responsible, more of whatever your deepest desire is. A resolve that results in instant gratification will only fulfill the moment, but appreciating the long journey and being persistent will fulfill your heart.
StressLessSecrets-Pick something small to be considered your win for the day, your win for the project, your win for the case, your win along the journey. The Small & Something way of life will reduce your stress, give you more confidence, and raise your happiness level. With your hand on your heart, repeat....just for this moment I choose to to truly feel so blessed and loved. Happiness lives in my heart, just for today. Isn't it wonderful to have enjoyed the highs and lows of whatever the thing is?
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One of the things that I teach my clients is money freedom and the various phases that one will go through to reach true money freedom. One of the things that they find fascinating is that they never knew it was or could be identified this way. The phases really help better understand where you are at and where you want to go. Once they identify some of the beliefs at each phase and how they are handling the money or lack thereof, then they can
Money freedom is defined as moving from a state of income allowance lifestyle to deliberately allowing of richness as a return of your experiences, gifts, and talents. There are 7 phases of money freedoms: 1) Income Allowance-credit approvals determine your haves and have nots, make decisions based upon income and expenses, budgeting for feeling of safety, 2) Shuffling-forgetting to pay bills, start acquiring late fees, overdrafts, and prioritizing payments based on urgency, 3) Melt Down-"I'm broke", broken down, regroup, 4) Rebuild-expenses get lowered, income goes up, or eliminate somethings, 5) URR-Unconventional Resources Revealed-Peace, Self-Trust, Small & Something Discipline Builders, 6) Money's Friend-Partner with money, ways to increase others lives, getting money to work for you, 7) Richness Allowance-Spiritual gifts are sources of unlimited income, use your mess to provide the message to others, and experiences formed your expertise.
With many new graduates set free into adulting I see and hear one of their big concern is the "I don't have credit". I do want to believe Dave Ramsey and live a cash only life. However, after going through natural disasters and not being financially prepared for it I realized the importance of the plan b for these plot twists. Have good credit as a backup in case of a true emergency. Yes, we did survive without it, but I have to tell you there were times that we got denied any help because of this. Insurance is not going to cut it for major catastrophes so set yourself up for all possible resources out there. Also, take one small step today with a long term vision of having perfect credit, cash in the bank, etc. Go through the phases and see where you land instead of being stuck fluctuating from 1-3.
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You: Hey, How are you?
Acquaintance: Girl, I'm so busy lately, I don't know if I'm coming or going?
You: Oh really, what are you busy with?
Acquaintance: I don't even know anymore [face begins to get less happy], I'm just soo busy with the kids, work, and I don't even know what else.
The reality is busy is defined by me as "Being Uselessly Stressed Yesterday". Most people who are too busy and have no idea what they are busy with because most of it isn't adding a lot of quality to their days. It's just work that keeps them from focusing on their gifts and works that the world needs. STOP It already. I don't know about you, but I want to create an unconventional lifestyle where busy isn't even a concept.
The way to do that is to focus on shifting from 1 phase to another while recognizing when the older phases sneak in. Time freedom is defined as Shifting from Being Busy to Deliberately Creating an Unconventional LIfestyle. These phases include: 1) BUSY (chaotic, restricted, obligated), 2) Struggle to Juggle (overwhelmed, frozen, time blocks) 3) Laxafocus (lackadaisical, lazy, lack focus), 4) React (Flight, Fight, Fainting Goat), 5) Organized (Relaxed, Productive, Systems), 6) Prioritizing (Responder, Unconventional Resources, Controlled), 7) DUL (Fun, Freeing, Fluid).
Do you want to have intention to move deliberately through the world, creating an unconventional lifestyle while allowing a gap to be able to respond to life's plot twist? Can you accept that life does throw plot twist because we cannot control the way others view us, react, mother nature, or many other punches in the face that show up? Can you prepare for them? Maybe not, but you can leave a gap to be able to respond and then to keep moving.
As I work with my clients they get to know early on which of these 3 Freedoms(Money, Time, or Relationship) are most important to them. At any given time the highest seeking priority changes. Without the clarity of knowing which one is truly the desired freedom at a point in time then decisions become very hard to make. From the decision of what to eat, what to wear, which event to attend, who to hang out with, etc.
I remember so clearly when my sweet Maci, couldn't even decide what to eat at Sonic. I, not getting any "mother of the year" awards got so frustrated and said "well, that's a sure sign of lacking confidence". My word it felt like eternity and she then she had a break down. We had been at the menu for what seemed like forever and I just didn't get what was soooo hard to decide. I'm sure she remembers the story different than I do, lol, I think she did eventually eat something then or later, but her decision making to menus is definitely better than it was when she was 16. Phew, I'm glad that we made it through that phase.
Now that I know better I get to teach others how to prioritize their quick decisions so that things like what to eat and wear doesn't zap the focus of what's really important. So one of the questions to ask yourself when you do know which freedom is most important to is "will ordering this get me closer to "time freedom, money freedom, or relationship freedom"?
If you are seeking time freedom then you would likely not elect to fix an 8 course meal for you and your family, but instead would decide something that doesn't take as long to prepare, eat, or clean up after. Now, if you are seeking relationship freedom perhaps you are hungry for a fancy, gourmet, luxury meal and you LOVE to cook and spend time in the kitchen. Perhaps, the washing of dishes gives you a sense of peace, detox, and purging. Eating a large meal and getting to spend time with layers of dishes is something that you get excited for. On the other hand, if money freedom is your desire then you likely wouldn't buy the filet mignon and lobster for the meal, but instead ground meat and a pack of crawfish tails near the end of the season.
The key is to know what it is that you truly seek. Here's a hint: it is almost never what you think it is. Only after I dive in with you can you truly know which freedom is the one that is top priority and then decision making becomes so easy.
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By nature, we REACT! If you're a Laid Back type of person then you tend to be less reactive than a person that can be considered of the Anxious type. An Anxious type will be found cursing at a traffic jam, aggravated at the slow shopper pushing the cart, always in a hurry. The laid back person will be a little more go with the flow and find themselves on the receiving end of an anxious type. Neither are bad or good they just are the 2 types of folks that make the world go round.
During stress overload fight, flight or freeze is the natural go-to Stress Response aka Reaction. Most people react to situations, events, etc. Very few people leave time in their day to allow themselves to respond. Responding to something that wasn't part of your plan puts you in the driver seat and allows for solutions to show up. Reactions, on the other hand, can and often do add regret, guilt, disappointment, the need to apologize, or keeps you stressed while replaying the past events over and over.
One of my clients recently came to me hoping to find a solution not to experience a blow-up as she recently had experienced. In a state of panic and fear she was in a total overload of stress and regrettably yelled at her family in a blow-up scenario much to the surprise of her other family members.
Because she constantly seeks personal growth and always wants to do better we uncovered that her stress overload had a lot to do with disappointment to some events that were out of control , and to the undone things in the environment that had just been pushed and often overlooked physically. Here's the thing she made many justifications why it was okay that these things really never got done or completed in her attempts to be understanding of other most of the time, but her subconscious was totally aware of her burying the frustration and disappointment that the environment was a stimulus overload. A long list of just not finished items, as many of us find in our day to day lives, and a busy day with some new, although exciting, still new events that had just occurred.
Simple Solution was A) create a master Stop Putting it Off List then sit with her spouse to begin taking action together, hire the folks that are needed to be hired for specific tasks, and delete items that are really no longer of importance.
The tweaks of knowing that small and somethings are getting done has allowed her to relax and spend more fun times with her family. Relationships often get destroyed or at a minimum set back to a feeling of "stuck" when a reaction happens. Luckily for my client and her family she's got me to help Coach her to a new level in life with less stress as she begins to respond in a manner that leads to productivity and happiness.
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