Motivational Messages that will Shift You From
to Your Very Own Super-Power
to Your Very Own Super-Power
Recently, I read a Facebook status regarding how quick people are to condemn. The fact is, most of us have probably been guilty of doing it to others as well as receiving it from others. It is not fun either way. It is a challenge that many of us face in life and since Fear of Criticism is one of the 6 Basic Fears that we operate from, we are likely to attract this to our lives at least once in our life.
However, with increased emotional intelligence, faith, and spiritual maturity you can and will start responding to this differently. You are much more powerful when you can come from a place of: condemnations do not anger you, you do not have to defend yourself everywhere that you go, hiding from society if rumors are going around about you, having to apologize for your beliefs, actions, or blame games that you resorted to as a reaction.
One of the most incredible feelings is not that you skate through life never being condemned or criticized, but instead to be able to understand why the other person went to that place anyway. Some of the challenges that I faced with this topic taught me that I am at the place in my journey where I do not get angry with others when they choose this reaction, but instead understand why they made the choices, actions, and path that they chose. How freeing it is to be condemned and still have compassion for that person.
Does it mean that I allow them to do it repeatedly or that I am Mother Teresa? Absolutely not. It just means that no matter where I am or where they are, I am at peace. I do not feel anger towards another who chooses this reaction, but instead have a deep understanding that is the only thing they knew at the time.
Yes, I have been on both ends. I used to get angry and stop talking to the other person when they falsely accused me of something or got mad at me for something that they believed I did. I also still have a ways to go with the way that I choose to handle hearing some of the things people point their fingers at me for, but my first response now is to come from a place of seeing ways that they could have gone to that place anyways. I choose to make peace no matter where I go. It is not my job to get anyone to see if from my side, but for me to see it from another person's side. That's my response. What's yours?
Do not feel bad if you aren't there yet, but feel great that you do not have to stay there. Now that you know there is a better, happier, more peaceful way to deal with finger pointers then you can be more prepared for the challenges that you may face along your journey. It's sometimes better to learn about this when this isn't your issue right now, but the most effective transformation will happen if this is exactly what you are experiencing in your own journey.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”– Dale Carnegie
“Remember: when people tell you something’s wrong or doesn’t work for them, they are almost always right. When they tell you exactly what they think is wrong and how to fix it, they are almost always wrong.”– Neil Gaiman
“Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.”– Benjamin Franklin
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